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April 29th, 2008 by Babs

Glenn has finally lost his last fucking marble. This past weekend the corps. did a show in Rochester, NY. Everyone complimented me on my new hairstyle including Mark, our new quad (drum) player. Despite the fact that Mark made this compliment in front of Glenn (I’d be suspect if he made it behind Glenn’s back), Glenn insists that Mark was flirting with me. He also insists that because I politely said “Thank you,” instead of screaming “Get the fuck away from me! I’m married!” I was flirting back. We haven’t even been back two whole days and it has progressed to him flip-flopping between “I love you. I trust you. I want to be with you forever,” and “YOU’RE A FUCKING WHORE! I KNOW YOU’RE SECRETLY PLANNING AN AFFAIR WITH HIM! I CAN SEE IT!”

I can’t do this anymore.

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dbmyrrha writes:
April 29th, 20081:55 pmat

Well, to be honest, if I were married to Glenn, I’d be thinking about an affair with any man who was actually nice to me.

Glenn is acting like an asshole. He knows it. He knows you know it. He also knows most healthy people would rather be with a kind and loving person than an asshole. Thus, he’s drawing his own conclusions.

In theory, he’s right, if not in fact.

Babs, we don’t know one another well, but I do know Glenn’s behavior is abusive, and that you deserve better than to be on the receiving end of his illness.

You say you can’t take it anymore, but every day you *are* taking it. Every day you take it, the damage you do to yourself is greater. I’m certainly not blaming you because circumstances are always complex, I know, but ultimately, you have to be responsible for yourself and your kids’ mental and emotional health, because he won’t be.

It may feel impossible now, but I know dozens of women and men who’ve done it. I have never known a person who regretted saving themselves, and their children, from being the target of an abusive spouse.

I will keep you in my loving thoughts.

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herbmcsidhe writes:
April 29th, 20083:41 pmat

I’ve never understood the guys who act like that…

**IF** Mark was actually flirting, Glenn should be taking it as a compliment that you are attractive to other guys, and take pride and contentment in the fact that it is he you go home with.

That having been said, I do tend to agree with DB, above, on the abusinve behaviour thing…and that’s a situation you really need to consider getting rid of, either via counseling or departure.

>>>>hugsbabs<<<<

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windsorblue writes:
April 29th, 20087:45 pmat

Paul used to pull the same kind of thing on me, and as it turned out, the one having the affair was him.

The thing about abusive men is, many times they’re taking out their own insecurities and guilt on the person they’re abusing. They accuse and scream and threaten to obfuscate their own sins. They beat up their partner because it’s easier to do that than it is to clean up their own mental/emotional crap.

I’m not going to lie – the single mom thing is scary as hell. But no one who really loves and trusts you is going to call you a whore.

*hugs*

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